story i was given

the chinese farmer
there is a chinese story of an old farmer who had an old horse for tilling his fields.
one day the horse escaped into the hills and, when all the farmer's neighbours sympathised with the old man over his bad luck, the farmer replied, 'bad luck? good luck? who knows?'

a week later the horse returned with a herd of wild horses from the hills and this time the neighbours congratulated the farmer on his good luck. his reply was, 'good luck? bad luck? who knows?'

then, when the farmer's son was attempted to tame one of the wild horses, he fell off its back and broke his leg. everyone thought this very bad luck. not the farmer, whose only reaction was, 'bad luck? good luck? who knows?'

some weeks later the army marched into the village and conscripted every able-bodied youth they found there. when they saw the farmer's son with his broken leg they let him off. now was that good luck? bad luck? who knows?

was given this story before i was broken..about 2 years back..?

now being here..being who i am now. i learn this lesson and abit more.
not to judge things immediatly..they may turn around and surprise you..for good or bad.
nothing is sure or over till the fat lady sings.(if you don't know who the fat lady is..you ought to bang a wall against yourself.)

there are times when we are happy and feel so blessed. we love what we have and seems like nothing can get us down.
then there are times when everything is the opposite.

what i feel is..we should not take things too hard. things happen we invariably feel happy/sad/whatever..but is it necessary to the extend where we want to die ah..the world is so unfair ah..why i so unlucky..why only me? why? why? why?

stop that whining..unless you have cheese to go with it.

it's not the end until you die. sometimes things just go bad..learn from it and be better. to be able to handle more things. to be able to think clearly when things come falling apart. to keep your cool when the heat is up. take a deep breath and chill out before taking a look at it. you'll be more focused and less emotionally unstable. that will probably help in most cases.

when things are good..i guess enjoy and take it as it comes. don't get ahead of yourself. the future is not for us to fathom. take it and be happy that you have it. smile and think of all the nice things you have.

we all have lost before. we all have good times before. what's important is the now that we are in. don't dwell too much in the past or future..you'll lose your now.

sometimes, we just have to learn to let things come and go.
i know it's easier said then done.
but how long do you want to live in the past?
the shadow of a future that's no longer possible?
we are only human..let us deal with what we can and enjoy life as it's given.

thank you.